POST 86: THERAPY NOT HELPFUL WHEN…

Some therapists emphasise that the spouse of the partner who had the affair, needs to focus on understanding where this behaviour is coming from to create a better marriage. Although the majority of what has been published by couple counsellors, sex therapists and those who are perceived by others or themselves as experts, on the […]

POST 85: A NEW YEAR…

A New Year, a New Beginning   The “holiday season” is for many around us not the time of year they are looking forward to. Maybe as kids they once did. To some the pain is intensified as they are not feeling “the holiday spirit”, something that is as much assumed by many others. It […]

POST 84: OTHER WOMAN

Other Woman   There might be 3 kinds of U The Manipulating Gold Diggers & Liars The Stupid who pretend to have no clue The Desperate with unfulfilled desires OW time to wake up! He IS having sex with his wife and lots You are heading for a bad breakup Time to connect the dots! […]

POST 83: CERTIFIED ASSHOLES

NO PLACE FOR CERTIFIED ASSHOLES I am ruthlessly going to apply relevant components of two books written by Robert Sutton to try to come up with a checklist that might be helpful to those who struggle with the question shall I stay, or shall I go? In the first place the question is relevant to […]

POST 82: STAYING, LEAVING…

Surviving: Staying or leaving & the many losses after betrayal Again, and again I come to the same conclusion: To understand we must read all and listen and really get it and not assuming anything about affairs and the aftermath. In too many cases, there is judgment and it is neither justified nor is it […]

POST 81: NO BITCHES AND HOES

One of my thoughts associated to the entire Weinstein saga, and related to my previous posting, is how consumers can use their influence in being part of the solution.  I perceive sexual harassment as part of a wider problem of toxicity in the world, and therefore also in the workplace. Companies that have employees engaging […]

POST 80: LET’S BE HONEST…

Since the news broke about the predatory behaviour of one of Hollywood’s most famous, the topic comes up in nearly every conversation I have, even when I desperately hope that this time it will not be mentioned. The overall sentiment is that people are pleased with the attention the story is getting because most want […]