POST 90: VALENTINE’S DAY

Reposted: Original post February 2016 Wow, this year Valentine’s Day falls on a Sunday. It could not be better for the people in happy and healthy relationships. Those dating…and those waiting for the anticipated marriage proposal it is ideal to have it in a weekend… Don’t get me wrong, Valentine’s Day has its merits. It […]

POST 89: LOVE

It must feel so good For you to look at me lying next to you in our bed Knowing I was there for you Always   When I look at you I see the man I loved The man I thought I knew Knowing you were not Loyal   I want to believe you changed […]

POST 88: WAS IT ALL A LIE?

Was it all a lie? This is what many betrayed spouses ask themselves. My answer is “yes” and “no”. YES:  It was a lie. The person you thought was devoted to you and your children, lied to you, and to others. The person you shared the most intimate experiences with, lied to you. That person […]

POST 87: SEX

Let’s talk about sex. I mean let us really talk about it! Recent media attention on sexual harassment and sexual misconduct and the #MeToo movement has brought a variety of issues to the forefront. Slowly, it becomes clear that we might be discussing behaviours falling on a spectrum that vary from levels of misunderstanding and […]

POST 86: THERAPY NOT HELPFUL WHEN…

Some therapists emphasise that the spouse of the partner who had the affair, needs to focus on understanding where this behaviour is coming from to create a better marriage. Although the majority of what has been published by couple counsellors, sex therapists and those who are perceived by others or themselves as experts, on the […]

POST 85: A NEW YEAR…

A New Year, a New Beginning   The “holiday season” is for many around us not the time of year they are looking forward to. Maybe as kids they once did. To some the pain is intensified as they are not feeling “the holiday spirit”, something that is as much assumed by many others. It […]

POST 84: OTHER WOMAN

  Other Woman   There might be 3 kinds of U The Manipulating Gold Diggers & Liars The Stupid who pretend to have no clue The Desperate with unfulfilled desires OW time to wake up! He IS having sex with his wife and lots You are heading for a bad breakup Time to connect the […]