LYING LIARS, LIES…
So much has been written about lying.
Black lies, grey lies, white lies, manipulators, pathological liars and compulsive liars…
Many people state that everyone lies. They stress that lying to a certain extent is needed as the truth would be too brutal. Then there are those who start a whole essay about “truth” when we use that word….and all appears so complicated.
But, some things are simple. I know, I know I always state that everything is more complex when we look deeper into the issue…and yes, this is true for lying as well, but in the end…it is not that complex, as many rebuttals are useless and often provided to justify lying and believe me I have heard them all.
Lying when protecting someone, for instance. We observe that in the heroes in the movies we like to watch…those who protect the innocents while being tortured by the baddies…
Most people who lie, however, are no heroes. They do so because they gain from the lies. They gain attention, money, sympathy, admiration, respect. They lie on their resumes, about their education level, the years of experience they have and “the number of projects they have brought to a successful completion”. They lie about past relationships, about running marathons, the adventures they were part of, mischief they engaged in, the results on their IQ test, or they brag that they “have flown more than many a pilot”.
They lie about…well…everything…for reasons that boil down to making themselves look better than they are. They lie to hide unethical, bad, corrupt behaviour, but alas it all comes out…sooner or later.
They know however, that as soon as the lies come to light, they will lose the superficial respect and attention they gained. So, once they start lying, they must keep it up. Living a life with lies means to have different scenarios prepared in their head for different people and different places. Lies cover other lies, and so on. Life becomes complicated once they start lying.
The only way out is to come clean to themselves and to all the people they have harmed with their lies. What liars do however, is not coming clean, but to declare themselves sick, burnt-out, addicted, suffering from past abuse…and, of course, they are victims of bad people.
We have many of these “victims” in our society, those who were on top of the world before they were caught with their pants down. Poor them. I just hope you are not going to feel sorry for them as that means that they win again.
Liars: Come clean, don’t make excuses…
Do the work!
Stop lying and that will be hard for you. Seek help!
Think about all the lies over the years and all the people who have been manipulated and deceived by the lies.
Time’s up! Stop being a coward…no more excuses, justifications, no more hiding behind others or behind the label of a fancy sounding illness.