POST 73: TO ALL OF YOU WHO….

I am thinking of all the people who did not have a great mom (mum) or dad, regardless of your age. I am thinking about you when you are biting your tongue and try so hard to be civil and respectful, without faking it too much. I am thinking about all of you who are […]

POST 72: MISATTRIBUTION OF EMOTION

From the Theory of Emotion to Misattribution of Emotion Basically there are two theories on emotion. The first can be traced back to Charles Darwin who believed that there are eight or nine basic emotions, which are inborn syndromes of feeling and behaviour. Theorists following in Darwin’s footsteps focus on the facial expression as well […]

POST 71: …COUPLE BOUNDARIES

The Process Toward Establishing Healthy Couple Boundaries Couple boundaries are personal and therefore couples need to discuss these and come to agreements that makes sense to them. Couple boundaries are dynamic, not “set in stone” and will need to be discussed on-need basis as situations change over time. There are many reasons why agreements, expectations […]

POST 70: HEALING RITUALS

The following post consists of a summary of an article written by Winek and Craven (2003). I have added personal comments. In previous posts I have listed the causes of infidelity and the different types of adulterous relationships. I also wrote about healing and triggers. The article by Winek and Craven does not include significant […]

POST 69: BOUNDARIES!

The importance of having Professional Boundaries at the Workplace Boundaries are there for your well-being and protection (Lancer, 2017). A boundary is “something that indicates bounds or limits; a limiting or bounding line” (Dictionary.com). A boundary is “a real or imagined line that marks the edge or limit of something” (dictionarycambridge.org). There are many different […]

POST 68: CAN WE DO IT: FACTORS

There are many articles written about the survival rate of relationships after infidelity. Some are in general positive and these tend to come from those who work in the profession of couple therapy. Other articles show a more negative picture and I think both messages are correct. What is often missing are the factors that […]